Bro Code for Girls

Thursday night I was running errands on my own, and listening to Your Time with Kim on the radio in the car. There was a guy who called in for advice. His best friend is dating his (the caller's) cousin. They are not married, but they're having a baby together. The guy has known for a while that his friend has been sleeping around with other women, and now he's heard that his cousin is suspicious and is going to ask him (the caller) about it.

It came down to family vs. bro code. And he was leaning heavily toward his allegiance with his buddy.

Personally, I think that if he's not close enough with the cousin that it's not bloomin' obvious family wins in this situation, then he's at least obligated to not lie for his friend, either by being a "cover" for him when he's out (which he is) or telling his cousin that nothing is going on.

Kim eventually said what I was thinking... Before she gets a chance to ask, tell the friend that it's time for him to tell her himself. You'll be Switzerland, stay out of it and not comment, but he has to tell her.

Then she said something with which I completely disagree. She said that with guys there is this "bro code," and women don't have anything like that. I would say most women are not going to tell their friends' boyfriends/husbands that their gf/wife is running around on them, even if asked point blank.

Matter-of-fact, I would take the code one step further, and take the gender out of it. The person who is your friend- be they male or female- has your ultimate loyalty if really put to the test, even if you're pretty close to the other half of the couple. Would you lie for your friend? Maybe. Maybe not. I just doubt you're going to upchuck the whole story. I'm guessing you would at most suggest that if they are suspicious, they should talk with their significant other about it.


Saturday 9: My Best Friend's Girl

1. Have you and a friend ever have an argument because you were attracted to the same person?
My girlfriends and I were never attracted to the same types of guys! Very weird, because we are all pretty similar to each other, I think. For example... Kimberly likes older, mature sorts of guys. Lori likes cowboy types, with a dangerous streak. Cathy likes muscle-bound, tough guys. I was usually into the smart, funny, geeky types.

2. Who never returns your phone calls? 
Angel :p

3. What was your favorite childhood toy?
I have to choose a single one? I had a doll named Jenny that I played with for years.

4. Who is the last person you greeted at your door?
The FedEx guy who brought my Erasure tix yesterday.

5. Would you change anything about your life right now?
There are always little things I'm changing, but in general, no. I'm good!

6. Who is the easiest person for you to talk to? 
Laura

7. If you could live in any ancient city during the height of the quality of its society and culture, which one would you choose? 
Athens. Ancient Athens was a center for art, philosophy and writing.

8. What is the most exciting event you’ve ever witnessed?
Not counting Lauren's birth, where I was more the event than the witness, I'll say the 1983 Wembley Duran Duran concert, where it was their last night in London (they didn't perform there again until 2004) and tons of current British music stars were honored guests in a section just up and to the left of us. They introduced them all to the roaring crowd. That whole night was just the best!

9. What do you consider the ideal age to have a first child?
these days, 29-30