Saturday 9

Saturday 9: You've Lost That Lovin' Feelin'

1. In a relationship, have you ever hung in even when you knew for sure it was over?
I put way too much thought into this question, people. If you do this survey, please don't spend more than two minutes on #1 without consulting a therapist.

No. None of my serious relationships had that sort of path, where you know it should end, but it hasn't yet. One ended abruptly, unexpectedly and mutually after a very dramatic argument. One ended completely by surprise when he randomly dumped me. One ended because I moved away.

I did, however, hang on to one after it was actually over. The one where he dumped me. I hung around for about six weeks, thinking he might change his mind. (Don't do that. Move on as fast as you can!) He didn't change his mind. I finally met some other cute guys and went off on my merry way.

2. If you had the ability to perpetually alleviate any pain on your body, what would it be?
I occasionally get migraines or sinus headaches. It would be nice to never get them!

3. What place would you visit if money were no object? 
The moon. Before doing anything else, I'd spend a few billion designing a spacious spaceship with first class accommodations.

4. What is one thing you would love to change about yourself?
I would love to be more patient with people who are acting like idiots.

5. Do you think your parents were too strict growing up? 
My parents were pretty permissive, although I was a very well-behaved kid for the most part. My mom's general policy was that if she knew where I was (where I really was) and who I was with, and it wasn't somewhere she felt I would be in danger or get myself in trouble (again pretty lenient here- I was out with the Westheimer kids quite a bit), I could be out on weekend nights as long as I wanted to.

I'd say her one very strict rule was "no boys in the house if I'm not home" which I observed with great care, other than a few select occasions. Shane and Doug and I sometimes hung out on my front porch after school with music absolutely blaring from inside the house so we could hear it while we were chatting, until my mom got home from work. Why weren't we at Doug's or Shane's instead? I have no idea. I can just assure you that it was not 106 degrees then.

6. In general, how many old friends do you have that you talk to at least once a year?
Talk to in any sort of depth... 10-15.

7. What was the last compliment you received?
Laura said her classroom bookshelves look really good after I alphabetized and organized the books.

8. Have you ever told someone you loved them, but didn't really mean it?
Absolutely not.

9. In your opinion, would it be harder to lose someone close to you more as a child or harder as an adult?
As an adult. Children are naturally resilient and have a less introspective/reflective mindset than adults. It's a great thing. Just different. The closest person to me who who died when I was growing up was my Grandma when I was 11. I cried and cried and cried over it for a couple of days, both because I missed her and because I felt so very badly for my mother losing her mom. But I think I rebounded from it more quickly than I would today.