Bachelorette

The Bachelorette ended the way we wanted it to. I'm not a big Ashley fan. I just don't think she was open to the whole idea of the show on Brad's season, so I think of her as one of the people who was on there taking up a space from someone who might actually be interested in the bachelor, but eh. She's fine, just not my favorite. JP, however, was Lauren's and my favorite guy from day 1, and we always noticed the two of them are soooooo into each other. We totally had it pegged this season! Jeff was deciding between JP and Ben up to the last minute.

Ben, who I like a lot, was the best exit ever from that show. Ever! He walked off, pissed. She (eventually) went after him and tried to do the whole "You're a great guy, so nice, and an interesting person (omg "interesting person"??)..." thing, but he wasn't having any of it. She wanted to leave it on good terms, but he asked how the situation could ever be left on good terms. He'd put his heart on the line and asked her to marry him and she basically said she wasn't that into him. Like he said, he left with his dignity. *applause*

I did take notice that on The Bachelorette, the guys are much better able to have perspective on the game than the ladies are on The Bachelor. One would guess that would be the case, but it's interesting to observe the guys generally being more logical and the women generally being more emotional about developing relationships on that sort of show.

The whole season came down to a discussion Cathy and I actually had very recently. A passion between two people has to exist for a successful marriage. I don't buy for a minute that people can be in a platonic relationship and then develop a passion for each other over time, like Ben and Ashley kept saying they were hoping for. There has to be chemistry, and chemistry can neither be feigned nor created where there is none. From the time you really notice a person, it's either there or it's not.

Of course there have to be some shared interests and mutual respect and other things, but at its core, a romantic relationship is based on an inexplicable and undeniable attraction. Ashley has that with JP. With Ben, not so much.

On to Bachelor Pad next Monday... the only reality show more embarrassing to watch than The Bachelor. Can't wait!