Don't be Fancy, Just Get Dancey...

Why so seriouuuuuuuus???????!
...We will never be never be anything but LOUD
and nitty gritty
dirty little freaks...

"Raise Your Glass" P!nk

Revealing that I like that song is almost as embarrassing as when I was all over "Tick Tock" by Kesha. Yeah, "Tick Tock" really is a great tune, if you ignore the lyrics. If you ignore the lyrics, however, you miss out on a great deal of entertainment value. The first time I heard it, I said to Lauren, "This reminds me... there is some gross song supposedly out now, where a girl brushes her teeth with Jack Daniels."

"That's this one!" she said, as if we'd just stumbled upon a delightful mutual interest in Peruvian art.


Patrick's Sunday Seven

The website Frisky recently posted a list of 20 things a couple should do before they get married. The items make sense. But your task this week is to narrow the list, or come up with something they missed.

Name the seven most important things you think a couple should do before getting married.

1. Complete school. Although I certainly favor waiting until the age of 25+, it's really education that most concerns me. If you're not going to college, then graduate from high school before getting married. If you're going to be a pediatrician, then complete medical school first. Whatever your goal is. Because it's difficult to add the stresses of marriage- good and bad- to a plate full of classes and school-related social activities. You also want to be free to make educational decisions based on your own goals, and not having to consider those of another person.

2. At least meet the other person's family before the wedding planning starts. Not because his crazy aunt might be a deal-breaker, but because you don't want your first experiences with your spouse's family to take place during that surreal, busy engagement or wedding time. Even better to get to know them before all the wedding stuff begins and you become part of the family.

3. Definitely talk about kids (how many, when to have them) and religion (if different- how will kids be raised, where to go to church, etc.).

4. Have sex. Or at least get fairly close, if it's important to you to wait. You don't want to find out too late that your intimate relationship is not great. This is someone you're going to be with forever.

5. Discuss and agree on name-changing. And don't forget to decide what your children's last names will be, if you will not share the same last name with your spouse.

6. Discuss and agree on career issues, like if you'll move when one or the other of you gets transferred. Whose job takes precedence, if any? Will both of you continue working when kids are born? These are things that are fluid in nature over time, but at least being in agreement before marriage, and just being aware of the other person's priorities and dreams, is so important.

7. Live in the same city for at least six months. Well, I didn't think about that, but if you are marrying someone with whom you are in a long-distance relationship, I agree that it would be vital to live in the same geographical area for six months or so before marriage, if that is what you will be doing after the ceremony. If, as KathyL would prefer, you are marrying someone who lives far away, and you only plan to meet up every weekend for fun and frolic, then I think the six months could be safely skipped. (As could the marriage part...)